Being a Father of a child with special needs (in this case a child with CP) is a life-defining event. The following are some affirmations that I have found helpful to do my best through the years:
1. The role of the Father, although not as well defined, as that of the mother, is central;
2. Stability and constancy in your child's life give direction to move forward in a positive manner;
3. School people respond differently and are more apt to hear the Mother when the Father or other significant male is present;
4. More than success in work, becoming an effective advocate for your child sustains self esteem and self worth over time;
5. It is incredibly hard to define, strategize and implement effective advocacy without another invested adult on behalf of the child. While that does not have to be the other parent, when applicable, the Father should make every effort to step up and play this role.
6. Although the fight often can be hard, the rewards are incredible.
7. Working for myself has allowed me the schedule to do what I need to for my son. If working for yourself is an option, consider it seriously as it will allow you to make most of fatherhood.